Separating? 3 Things You Must Agree On First…
I've worked with many people who are part of a separation in their marriage. Some are the ones pushing for it, others have it thrust upon them by an unhappy spouse. They may call it "taking some time apart", "needing space", "figuring things out", or any other number of euphemisms, [...]
Tinder, True Intimacy, and Dating Generation Gaps
If you haven't seen it yet, the Vanity Fair article on Tinder - entitled "Tinder And The Dawn of the Dating Apocalypse", I highly recommend it. As someone who has been married for 11 years now, and with his wife for 14 years, some of the new dating and mating [...]
Nice Guy Posts now going up on TheNiceGuyCoach.com
Hi everyone, While I do lots of in-person therapy with Nice Guys in Seattle, I am working to be able to offer help, tools, information and resources to Nice Guys who aren't geographically near me. I wanted to point you at what is currently just my Nice Guy blog, but [...]
I’m now In-Network with Regence BlueShield!
I'm excited to announce I am now a Participating Provider on Regence BlueShield's network in Washington State. If you were looking to use your insurance for counseling or psychotherapy with me, please let me know. Along with being in-network with Regence, I am also in-network with BridgeSpan and Uniform Medical [...]
The Emotional Truth of Don Draper
If you're like me and many other millions, you watched the finale of Mad Men on Sunday night, and got to see the end of the story for everyone, including the central character (I don't know that I'd call him a hero) - Don Draper. I was reflecting, as a [...]
Depression, Men & Testosterone
A new medical study, which is well summarized here at PsychCentral finds a strong correlation between depression in men and lower testosterone levels. This link has definitely been talked about for a long time, and is one of many biological issues that might cause depression. When I am working with [...]
House of Cards, Power, and Watching What You Worship
If you're not a House of Cards watcher, this post might not make much sense (of course, since it's on Netflix, you could go and binge watch all of it and come back tomorrow). There are spoilers ahead, FYI. Much is being written and commented about HOC Season 3 - that [...]
Criticism & Ineffective Feedback
Hi all, Sometimes I just like to pass along something great I found by another author. In this case it's a long post about Criticism and how ineffective it is as a feedback tool (if what you want is improved performance). The author is Kate Heddleston, who is a long-time [...]
Great Wisdom on Marriage – 36 Things
Sometimes I run into something that is perfect, and I can do nothing but pass it on. This is one of those - wisdom from someone who has been doing this marriage thing a lot longer than I have. Here is 36 Things I Know About Marriage After 36 Years [...]
Conclusions & Confessions – a Month into my Facebook Fast
I am four full weeks into my Facebook Fast ("Why I Did It" is posted here - "2 Weeks In" is posted here).The addictive, habitual power of checking FB on my smartphone and iPad, and whatever neurochemicals it kicks off, are nearly gone. I don't long for it or jones [...]
