The Next Time Someone Tells You To “Man Up”
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“I Don’t” as an Optimal Way For Saying “No”!
I was bowled over this morning reading a great article in Business Insider that held a good tool for the Nice Guys and the People Pleasers of the world. It was an approach to saying No and turning down requests I hadn't thought of before.Here's the pertinent piece of the article:Overworked and overburdened is a recipe [...]
18 All-Purpose Assertive Phrases
Hi folks,Twitter is at its best for me when it delivers something of real value.Today, found an article posted on a Psychology Today blog entitled "Speak Up! 18 All-Purpose Assertive Phrases".I found it really useful - hope you do to! Best, PeterNice Guy counseling in SeattlePS - Twitter hat tip to @psychfeed
You Can’t Say Yes….
If you can't also say "No". Another image quote for the day....
That TED Video on Vulnerability (You Need to Watch It)
Dear Fellow Nice Guys,I call this meeting of Nice Guys Anonymous to order. Please stop fighting over who is giving up the good seats to who. You can apologize later :-)OK, tonight we'll be watching a short (20-minute) movie. It's called The Power of Vulnerability: a TED Talk by Brene Brown. In it, Brene Brown [...]
A Poem for the Nice Guys
Hi everyone,I'm pretty open that I work with people on this journey because it's my journey, too. I'm coming back around to some old stuff from a higher level (we call it the Spiral Path, where you come back around to things, with more skills, tools and perspective) and this poem is a result. I'll [...]
Nice Guys and Exoskeletons
It came to me today, that I, like many Nice Guys I know, have developed exoskeletons over the years.What do I mean by that?Well, I was thinking about the habits, skills and strategies I have picked up along the way (since, perhaps the beginning of high school). I was a pretty sensitive kid, a smart [...]
A Quick, But Important Thought for Nice Guys
You will really make a break-through when you take into account how much doing (or not doing) something would disappoint YOU along with how much it might disappoint someone else.It is the balance of these things that makes for good decision making in a relationship.P.S. - many Nice Guys are good at over-estimating how disappointed people [...]
Nice Guys, Frank Burns, and Game Theory
"It's nice to be nice… to the nice." – Col. Frank Burns on the TV show M*A*S*H It surprises me that a great quote for nice guys comes from Frank Burns, who I never would associate with being one. But the heart of the quote really reflects the dilemma that nice guys face in their [...]
